5 positive approaches to parenting this Christmas
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Christmas is a wonderful time to create lasting memories with children, but it can also bring some unique challenges. The excitement and anticipation of the festive season can be overwhelming for young ones, leading to overtiredness, emotional outbursts and stressful moments.
When you throw disrupted sleep, changes in routine, an overload of sugary treats, and pressure from other family members to keep a harmonious atmosphere into the mix, it's easy to see how parents might find it difficult to discipline their child as they normally would.
Here are five key strategies to help you embrace a positive parenting approach during the festive season, allowing you to enjoy the holidays with your children while managing any challenging situations effectively.
1. Focus on spending quality time together
At its core, Christmas is about being with family, and it’s important to remember that. It can be easy to get caught up in preparations, whether it’s cooking a big meal, ensuring that the house is clean for visiting guests, and making sure that everything’s perfectly organised.
However, taking a step back to prioritise time with your children over these material elements of the day will make the experience more meaningful.
Engage in activities that strengthen your bond with them, such as playing games, reading festive stories, or enjoying some quiet time together. Prioritise moments of laughter and connection over achieving a perfect Christmas spread. It’s these shared experiences that your children will remember, not the details of the trimmings.
2. Set realistic expectations
While it’s natural to want to showcase your children in the best light to extended family, expecting impeccable behaviour all day is neither fair nor realistic. Young children thrive on routine, and the disruptions caused by early mornings, long lunches, more noise and people than they’re used to, and late bedtimes can leave them feeling unsettled.
It’s important to recognise that the excitement of Christmas can be overwhelming for small children. Allow for some flexibility and accept that there may be moments of frustration or tiredness.
3. Plan ahead to avoid meltdowns
Taking some time to plan ahead can help alleviate many of the stress points during the festive season. Think of how you could structure the day to minimise disruptions to your child's normal sleep and meal schedules, as these are often the biggest contributors to emotional meltdowns.
Preparing activities to keep them engaged and ensuring you have essentials ready (like batteries for new toys) can make a big difference.
4. Establish clear guidelines and boundaries
By explaining in advance what’s expected of them, you can help avoid misunderstandings or difficult behaviour. This might be simple, everyday things that get forgotten in the Christmas excitement, like walking instead of running indoors, taking shoes off before you enter someone’s home, or reminders about table manners during meals.
Reminders throughout the day can reinforce these boundaries, and it’s important to recognise and praise positive behaviour. If you're spending Christmas away from home, identify a quiet space where you can take your child for a moment of calm if needed.
5. Managing family dynamics
One of the trickiest aspects of Christmas can be managing interactions with extended family members. It can be challenging when relatives offer unsolicited advice or when their actions (such as giving your child sweets before breakfast) go against your parenting approach. Clear communication is key, and it’s helpful to set out any rules or routines you’ve established with your children so that everyone’s on the same page.
Finally, make sure the festive workload is shared fairly so that both parents get time to relax and enjoy the day.
Making Christmas memorable, not perfect
Christmas, like family life, is rarely perfect. And no good story ever started with a child being as good as gold!
The key to a successful Christmas is not in the pursuit of perfection but in creating lasting memories filled with love and laughter. By focusing on spending quality time with your children, setting boundaries, and managing the inevitable ups and downs with patience, you can all enjoy a more relaxed and joyful holiday season.
The advice and strategies shared in this article are general in nature and may not suit every family’s unique circumstances. Always consider your child’s individual needs and consult a trusted professional or parenting expert if you require personalised guidance.
